And so I punished myself — avoiding men and the dating scene entirely. When a person has oral herpes, "cold sores" or "fever blisters" can. If you've recently been diagnosed with HSV-1 or HSV-2 (genital herpes), you might feel confused, scared, and possibly angry. However, both. Since being diagnosed with genital herpes in , she has dedicated her life to breaking down the stigma around herpes and providing.
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Since being diagnosed with genital herpes in , she has dedicated her life to breaking down the stigma around herpes and providing resources for people struggling to come to terms with their condition.
Advertisement Advertisement She told Metro. We put so much pressure on ourselves and all of our insecurities are pushed to the surface when it comes to dating. It takes a lot of self-reflection and self-worth to begin the dating process. The fear of telling someone or the rejection was so strong. Once I got over that hurdle, then I was ready to begin dating. It was very hard to tell a guy I liked that I had herpes, hoping that they would still want to date me.
On the day she received a call from her doctor with the results of her test: If I get an outbreak I know how to treat it and help the outbreak heal as fast as possible. Herpes is split into the HSV-1 virus, also known as herpes simplex or oral herpes, that causes cold sores and mouth ulcers, and HSV-2, the genital herpes virus characterised by painful red blisters around the genital region. Unfortunately, there is no cure for herpes. Is it possible to successfully date and have relationships even though you have an incurable STI?
Alexandra definitely thinks so. Advertisement Advertisement She and her husband Bill worked together for six years before beginning to date and were married in November I told him and cried on his shoulder. My GP referred me to a sexual health clinic in September and I got tested the same month.
They swabbed the sore and sent it off for testing, and my results came back positive. I crumpled into a heap on the floor.
I got a text message from the doctor and was told after I called that I had herpes and I had to contact all my sexual partners. That was pretty much it. Normally you only get one flare-up a year, at the most.
After I was diagnosed, I was scared of rejection and stopped dating entirely for a few months. But I knew that the longer I put it off, the scarier it would be. We went on a couple of dates but I didn't know when to bring it up. After our second date she asked me to come inside after I'd walked her home and kissed her goodbye, but I refused.
I'd been drinking and I was far too afraid to talk about it then. I called and invited her round the same evening. That whole day, I thought about nothing else and felt sick when the time finally came. I told her as we sat on my couch, looking at the ground the whole time. When I looked up she just laughed at me for being so worried, and kissed me. The reason being that if I'm dating someone and think we might have sex at some point, I will tell them that I have HSV But I only want to go through that with someone I really like, who I know I can trust.
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