My best friend is now dating my ex-boyfriend. Needless to say, it's weird. So in your opinion, what are the rules about dating exes?. Too late for a clean break with your BF. Doesn't matter if she weeps. You have hard feelings about both of them, and that's your business. However these two. When I used to think of best friends, I would think of someone who knew your order at McDonald's without having to ask and got you fries even when you said.
It’s never OK to date your friend’s ex – and this is why :
Emma and Liam developed a cordial relationship, but there was just too much history, and dating Liam created a huge divide between Emma and me. He was telling me some story that I couldn't pay attention to because his beautiful blue eyes were catching the light in a magical Disney prince sort of way. Bonnie was a huge help.
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I resumed my friendship with Liam and it seemed like everything was back to normal in our little world, minus one relationship that didn't affect many of us anyway. A few months later I broke up with my first boyfriend, and Liam and I were spending more and more time together. We'd been close friends for so long, but those feelings started to evolve into something deeper. After a few weeks of testing the waters, we decided to give dating a try. Emma and Liam developed a cordial relationship, but there was just too much history, and dating Liam created a huge divide between Emma and me.
The fight between Emma and I was a slow burn rather than an all-out brawl. The tension and anger started when I began spending more time with Liam. He lived close to me, so he would come over to my house many days after school. I was always nervous about telling Emma I was with him, which led to a lot of white lies and attempted cover-ups. The truth always came out, and my inability to be honest with Emma was the first crack in the foundation of our relationship.
When I was unable to be honest with her, she felt that she couldn't come to me, either. Eventually, neither of us were willing to say what we really felt, which led to more problems down the line.
Emma felt she had no choice but to say she was okay with it or risk making me angry and losing my friendship all together. Young and dumb as I was, however, I took her at her word and happily felt that I followed all the necessary steps to have an Emma-approved relationship with Liam. But after Liam and I started dating, Emma became distant. Because I thought I'd done everything right, I became indignant and angry about her treatment of me.
If she didn't want me to date him she should have just said so, right? I had no comprehension of the difficult position I put her in, and I didn't even try to be understanding about the fact that she felt I chose Liam over her.
I had Liam, and I convinced myself that I was happy enough with that, but Emma had no one, and the isolated position I put her in upsets me to this day. After months of barely speaking to each other except when we were forced to, Emma and I were suddenly able to repair things. I missed my best friend. I missed our talks and our inside jokes and our sleepovers filled with laughter. I wrote her a long note about all our memories and how much I missed her, and both of us were able to put our anger and resentment aside and continue our friendship.
She got as on board as she could with Liam and my relationship, and I tried not to rub it in her face. I couldn't help but roll my eyes when they held hands or cancel on plans with Bonnie when she added that Michael would be coming, too.
I felt like I was losing both of my best friends because I couldn't handle their cute couple-ness and they were not picking up on any of my hints. Relief The only time Bonnie and I spent alone anymore was when I would go to her house after school to study for bio. Sometimes we had sleepovers on school nights because we said we needed to study for a really hard test together.
It was true, the tests were always really hard, but usually we spent the nights choreographing dances and making music videos. Michael wasn't allowed to come to these hangouts because it was our girls-only time. Sometimes they would fight on the phone for what seemed like hours and secretly I harbored the belief that he did it on purpose. He was, in my opinion, becoming increasingly needy and wanted Bonnie all to himself.
All of my feelings came spilling out one afternoon when we were laying on her floor with books and papers sprawled around us. I hadn't even planned it, but when she said that I seemed distant, I couldn't think of a fake excuse fast enough. She knew by my hesitation that there was something I wasn't telling her. So, reluctantly, I let it all out—romantic night on the dock and all. Syda Productions via Shutterstock Guidelines I felt better instantly.
Clearing the air was the first big step in surviving the relationship between my best friend and my ex-boyfriend, but it wasn't over after that. Talking allowed me to get all of the weird mixed feelings off my chest but I still had to figure out what to do with those emotions once they were out in the open for anyone to see. Bonnie was a huge help. She made sure the two of us had our best friend time and totally leveled down on the whole PDA situation.
But Michael played his own role in my path to survival—whether he knew it or not. My starry eyes started to fade after watching him bicker with my best friend. Over the course of their year-long relationship, his jokes started to feel immature and his smile seemed always to be at the expense of Bonnie.
Finally, after an entire year of navigating choppy waters, Bonnie and Michael were no longer a couple, which is something we girls could both be happy about. We spent that night watching movies, eating every snack known to womankind, and laughing about all the crazy things that had happened over the year.
I like to think that we rewrote the unwritten friend code. Instead of forbidding each other from following our hearts, we talked about the emotions on our sleeves.